Friends is an abstract concept to some, what does that term mean? Essentially it is a group of people that someone has picked to spend time with based on a group of qualities that they find pleasing. But what does that mean? What is involved in being a friend? This is something I have been learning over the years and each group of friends brings some new light to the concept.
When I was growing up I had a few close friends and it was more like we were thrown together. I have remained best friends with my best friend from kindergarten. Though now that I think about it if we hadn’t been friends all along we probably wouldn’t have talked to each other because we are very different. We are into different things and have gone down different paths in our lives and yet we remain friends over 20 years later. Over the years friends have come and gone and I’m not friends with many of the people I was friends with in high school.
It wasn’t until college that I met the friends I am closest to now. My partner in crime was in my class in college and to this day I consider her one of my closest friends. My Whim partner I met at work over the summer and they are one of my closest friends now as well. These two are really the two people who have taught me what friends are for. They have shown me the true meaning of friendship and what it means to pick friends based on how you complement each other rather than being thrown together in life. I know I wouldn’t be who I am without them in my life, and I know that I have friends for life.
They, along with a few other friends, have been there for me through a lot. When I needed friends most they were the two who were there. Whenever I need to talk to someone they are the two I think about first. Over the years not only have they talked me through the rough times but I have talked them through the rough times and I think that has only brought us closer together. They are my friend soulmates and that is something I can say with confidence and I hope that they feel the same way as I do. They truly do mean the world to me and I would do anything for them because that’s what friends are for.
So what are friends for? Being there for each other through both the good times and the bad? Bringing out the best in each other to make the other the best person they can be? Staying up late when you need some friend time? Bringing you up when you are feeling bad about yourself? Being honest with you in a way that doesn’t hurt you but still let’s you know something is wrong? Supporting you no matter what decisions you make?
The answer isn’t just one thing. In fact the answer is all of the above and so much more. Being a friend means something different to every single person in the world but not one answer is right. It is a mixture of so many things and when put all together it makes up a friend. This is what makes friends such a unique concept and what can make it so hard to figure out what it means to be a friend. As long as you be yourself and be the best friend you can be then you’ve got it covered because what you think a friend is isn’t wrong.